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date: 2024-08-23T11:49:51.517+01:00
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publishDate: 2024-08-23T11:49:51.517+01:00
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title: How I Learned to Have Uncomfortable Conversations
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bookmarkOf: https://humanparts.medium.com/finding-my-fighting-words-how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable-conversations-9c0bb09c50c
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category:
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- IPFS
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- web
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references:
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- url: https://humanparts.medium.com/finding-my-fighting-words-how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable-conversations-9c0bb09c50c
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type: entry
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name: How I Learned to Have Uncomfortable Conversations
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summary: I had 50 painfully uncomfortable conversations with strangers in NYC to practice being assertive under pressure. Here’s what I learned.
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url: https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fill:1200:632/g:fp:0.54:0.31/1*reK_nVirj6DhA1cWFg-BXg.jpeg
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published: 2020-05-27T20:32:26.911Z
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author: https://medium.com/@danshiner
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publication: Medium
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slug: how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable
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Learn to have difficult conversations (increase your assertiveness quotient, or AQ) and, combined with solid emotional intelligence (EQ), you've a winning combination that avoids both "asshole" _and_ "people pleaser".
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An interesting framing that resonates with me — I don't _think_ I'm an asshole (I believe I have pretty solid EQ), I think I'm good at asking for what I want (pretty solid AQ; assuming I _know_ what I want), and I've managed to gain respect in most of the places I spend time.
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