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2024-08-23T11:49:51.517+01:00	🥸	2024-08-23T11:49:51.517+01:00	How I Learned to Have Uncomfortable Conversations	https://humanparts.medium.com/finding-my-fighting-words-how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable-conversations-9c0bb09c50c	IPFS web	url type name summary featured published author publication https://humanparts.medium.com/finding-my-fighting-words-how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable-conversations-9c0bb09c50c entry How I Learned to Have Uncomfortable Conversations I had 50 painfully uncomfortable conversations with strangers in NYC to practice being assertive under pressure. Here’s what I learned. alt url A photo of smaller dinosaur figurines in front of a T-rex figurine. https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fill:1200:632/g:fp:0.54:0.31/1*reK_nVirj6DhA1cWFg-BXg.jpeg 2020-05-27T20:32:26.911Z https://medium.com/@danshiner Medium	how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable

Learn to have difficult conversations (increase your assertiveness quotient, or AQ) and, combined with solid emotional intelligence (EQ), you've a winning combination that avoids both "asshole" and "people pleaser".

An interesting framing that resonates with me — I don't think I'm an asshole (I believe I have pretty solid EQ), I think I'm good at asking for what I want (pretty solid AQ; assuming I know what I want), and I've managed to gain respect in most of the places I spend time.