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Boundary Issues 2024-01-28T21:17:56Z 🤺 2023-07-10T13:34:08Z https://www.parapraxismagazine.com/articles/boundary-issues
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https://www.parapraxismagazine.com/articles/boundary-issues entry Boundary Issues How boundaries became the rules for mental health—and explain everything Lily Scherlis Lily Scherlis

An extremely interesting article that helped me realise how different my definition of what “boundaries” are seems to differ from what contemporary usage is!

For me, a personal boundary is a pre-negotiated promise, not a demand. “These things hurt me, so if you end up doing them/I end up in that position (irrespective of intent or blame) then I will probably take these actions to protect myself.”

Instead of a tool of control (“you’ve crossed my boundary, you bad person”) it’s a tool for self-compassion (“I’ve reached my threshold and I need to care for myself for a spell. Here are some ways you could help with that, if you like.”)