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title: Boundary Issues
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date: "2024-01-28T21:17:56Z"
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publishDate: "2023-07-10T13:34:08Z"
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bookmarkOf: https://www.parapraxismagazine.com/articles/boundary-issues
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url: https://www.parapraxismagazine.com/articles/boundary-issues
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type: entry
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name: Boundary Issues
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summary: How boundaries became the rules for mental health—and explain everything Lily
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Scherlis
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author: Lily Scherlis
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summary: How boundaries became the rules for mental health—and explain everything
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An extremely interesting article that helped me realise how different my definition of what “boundaries” are seems to differ from what contemporary usage is!
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For me, a personal boundary is a pre-negotiated _promise_, not a _demand_. “These things hurt me, so if you end up doing them/I end up in that position (irrespective of intent or blame) then I will probably take these actions to protect myself.”
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Instead of a tool of control (“you’ve crossed my boundary, you bad person”) it’s a tool for self-compassion (“I’ve reached my threshold and I need to care for myself for a spell. Here are some ways you could help with that, if you like.”)
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