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| Boundary Issues | 2024-01-28T21:17:56Z | 🤺 | 2023-07-10T13:34:08Z | https://www.parapraxismagazine.com/articles/boundary-issues |
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How boundaries became the rules for mental health—and explain everything |
An extremely interesting article that helped me realise how different my definition of what “boundaries” are seems to differ from what contemporary usage is!
For me, a personal boundary is a pre-negotiated promise, not a demand. “These things hurt me, so if you end up doing them/I end up in that position (irrespective of intent or blame) then I will probably take these actions to protect myself.”
Instead of a tool of control (“you’ve crossed my boundary, you bad person”) it’s a tool for self-compassion (“I’ve reached my threshold and I need to care for myself for a spell. Here are some ways you could help with that, if you like.”)