From e5acc462e52a1055e9b883d7ef2e03e5bddb8d2c Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: JP Hastings-Edrei Date: Fri, 23 Aug 2024 11:49:12 +0100 Subject: [PATCH] create bookmark post --- .../how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable.md | 26 +++++++++++++++++++ 1 file changed, 26 insertions(+) create mode 100644 content/bookmarks/how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable.md diff --git a/content/bookmarks/how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable.md b/content/bookmarks/how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable.md new file mode 100644 index 00000000..bc58f4d5 --- /dev/null +++ b/content/bookmarks/how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable.md @@ -0,0 +1,26 @@ +--- +date: 2024-08-23T11:49:51.517+01:00 +publishDate: 2024-08-23T11:49:51.517+01:00 +title: How I Learned to Have Uncomfortable Conversations +bookmarkOf: https://humanparts.medium.com/finding-my-fighting-words-how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable-conversations-9c0bb09c50c +category: + - IPFS + - web +references: + https://humanpartsMediumCom/findingMyFightingWordsHowILearnedToHaveUncomfortableConversations9C0Bb09C50C: + url: https://humanparts.medium.com/finding-my-fighting-words-how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable-conversations-9c0bb09c50c + type: entry + name: How I Learned to Have Uncomfortable Conversations + summary: I had 50 painfully uncomfortable conversations with strangers in NYC to practice being assertive under pressure. Here’s what I learned. + featured: + - alt: A photo of smaller dinosaur figurines in front of a T-rex figurine. + url: https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fill:1200:632/g:fp:0.54:0.31/1*reK_nVirj6DhA1cWFg-BXg.jpeg + published: 2020-05-27T20:32:26.911Z + author: https://medium.com/@danshiner + publication: Medium +slug: how-i-learned-to-have-uncomfortable +--- + +Learn to have difficult conversations (increase your assertiveness quotient, or AQ) and, combined with solid emotional intelligence (EQ), you've a winning combination that avoids both "asshole" _and_ "people pleaser". + +An interesting framing that resonates with me — I don't _think_ I'm an asshole (I believe I have pretty solid EQ), I think I'm good at asking for what I want (pretty solid AQ; assuming I _know_ what I want), and I've managed to gain respect in most of the places I spend time.